A few months ago, my husband joined Erren’s Kitchen to help with the workload. Let me tell you, working with your spouse is not for the faint of heart!
My husband and I have been married for fourteen years and together for fifteen. We have always been ‘That Couple’ you know that ones – never have a bad thing to say about each other, still show affection (albeit not full on PDA) with a solid, happy marriage.
To give you an example, I never quite fit in when in groups of women as most of them complained about their other halves. I always felt uncomfortable in these situations because I had nothing to contribute. My husband has always been wonderful – helps around the house, great dad, my friend, and life companion.
One night at a book club made up of women I was friendly with, it was said that the main characters of the novel (who were a married couple) were unrealistic. One of the girls said, ‘I mean who snogs their husband (the British way of saying to make out with)? Then she turned to me and said, Oh Erren, I forgot you were here. As if to say, who besides Erren still snogs their husband? We all laughed because it was true.
Fast forward a few years, and my amazing husband starts working with me. Let me tell you, we became another couple. We fought like cats and dogs. We became other people – those other couples who yell. I swear one day in the middle of a video shoot, I had a full blown toddler tantrum! If there was sound on our footage – I’m sure it would entertain!
We’re getting a little better, but depending on our moods, it’s still not easy. I’m not writing this to air our dirty laundry. I’m writing this to focus on the positive and the long, successful relationship we have.
I’m writing to remind myself of how we make each other laugh out loud and when we’re out running errands separately, how we still smile at each other when we meet back up. Best of all, when we battle in the workday, we always sit down to dinner together like it never happened and cuddle up every night to go to sleep. I am writing this because I am blessed and I never want to forget that.
I’m starting to see that these are just growing pains. The same ones we must have had when we learned to live together (although I don’t remember them) and if I keep reminding myself of all the positive aspects of this journey, we’ll look back on this and laugh.
Past Monday Morning Updates:
I’ve been eating low carb for four weeks and have lost 12lbs! It’s rough as I am the carb queen, but I’m proud of my dedication!
My husband had his green card appointment last week. They needed more documents and couldn’t approve it there and then. Very stressful, but I’m hoping to have approval soon.
We cant book the movers, flights or find a place to live until we have a green card. We want to move in early April. It’s getting a little close for comfort.
I’m taking my old friend I told you about last week on a spa day the day before the funeral. We haven’t seen each other in years, but I think it will be the perfect way for us to close this chapter.